Question number one would seem to be how to get off your horse. You seem to start with solid one handed weapon skills, maybe I just need to focus on that early in the game. Heck, trying to fight the very first wimp led to an epic fail when I didn't swap my crossbow out for a hand weapon. Getting off my horse, somehow, does not seem to be in the list of commands within the option screen which led me to track down an alleged robber and get to watch him knock me unconscious as I flailed about. My ability to hit something with a lance approaches absolite zero. I tried the M & B Warband demo last night and found it more than a little challenging.
So, I can listen at least once a quarter (mark the calendar).